Benefits of dating a single mom
Aside from the obvious safety issues, nobody expects child-free, single women to be happy with dates in their own living room, so why should I settle for that?I want to meet for coffees in lovely cafes, enjoy walks along the beach and go on amazing nights out that don’t end until the sun comes up.I realise I’m not a teenager any more, but that doesn’t mean I want to fast-track to a relationship that involves arguing over the remote control when Match of The Day is on.Then there is simply my lack of free time – my son goes to stay with his dad every other weekend, so I have precisely 48 hours a fortnight to have fun. In truth, I doubt we’re even seen as a great catch and imagine lots of people think I should just settle for whoever I’m lucky enough to get.At first, it seemed exciting creating profiles on and Plenty of Fish and immediately getting loads of messages.But I soon got the wind knocked out of my sails when I opened up to friends and family about my newfound love life.And while I obviously ditched the dating sites while I was seeing Jack, I’m now on the verge of reactivating my profiles.
They even implied that I should wait until my son was 16 – only another 15 years on my own then!
In fact, I know I will meet someone special one day.
Someone who understands that being a mum will always come first, but that I also want and deserve an exciting social and sex life as much as anyone who doesn’t have kids.
WHEN I told Tom*, a guy I was dating, that I didn’t want to see him any more as we ‘wanted different things’, he probably thought I meant marriage and commitment.
You know, the things women are so unimaginatively accused of wanting more than men?
Another man I dated for a few months got annoyed that I couldn’t spontaneously go to London for a long weekend because I had Josh.