After 4 months of dating
Running along this is finding in each other what you most need – someone who listens or someone who seems decisive; someone who is gentle or someone who is strong and confident. well, literally chemistry, in this case the oxytocin that fuels the sexual attraction and attractiveness, the obsessing about the other, the feelings of falling in love. You find you have a lot in common but her personality reminds you too much of your ex.
The pink clouds of the first stage are fading; reality is rearing its head.The issue isn't about chewing and food, but about bringing honesty and realness into the relationship from the start so the person gets a true sense of who you really are and what is important to you.This is the only way of knowing whether or not you are truly compatible.Stage 2: Unsettled settling As Chris has noticed, the landscape has changed. This is not about fault or blame and more about, once again, chemistry – the oxytocin has dropped.
Researchers have found that oxytocin levels naturally drop in couples somewhere between 9 and 18 months.At this stage of the relationship, chemistry, both emotional and physical, is at the forefront.